Here’s the deal: I used to be an angry mom. I took every act of disobedience as a personal attack against me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still no where near perfect, but these days I’m a lot less stressed and offended.
I USED to think “If I don’t make a big deal of my toddler’s defiance they’re going to always be defiant, and before I know it she’ll be in juvie. I have to stop this bad behavior RIGHT NOW.” But ……..
Through the help of multiple resources (mainly Connected Families and Mom Struggling Well) I’ve learned that my over-reactions caused my kid to focus on MY behavior, NOT THEIRS.
I’m no where near perfect in staying calm, but I wanted to encourage all of us to reframe our thoughts. Not only for our kids’ sakes, but for ours as well!